Sunday, March 10, 2019

Shaping Me Into The Mom I am Today

Its been a year plus with Zuriel and I can't believe how the days and months has flown by.  I want to open up and share with you some things I’ve learned that have shaped me into the mom I am today. 

It was only 15 months ago that my entire life completely changed. It was Nov 7, 2017 when I became a mom to a beautiful little girl straight from Heaven. It was something I had wanted since I was a little girl.  I knew from an early age it was such an amazing gift and job to be a mom. I knew it was my calling in life was to be a mom- and it was something I wanted more than anything.

Throughout my early 20’s, there was so many great and exciting things that happened! So many things I accomplished but there were some not so great times I went through as well. Most of what got me through those trials and hard times was God and knowing that it would all work out in the end. God has a plan for you and if you stay on the right path, he will lead you to where you need to be! The not so great times and trials in my life have taught me so much. Looking back, I needed to go through all those things to be where I am today, be a wife and become the mother I am now. I am so proud of the woman and mom I am today. Those are all things that I will use to help teach Zuriel and all our future children! I want to share with you a few things I have learned and that have really stuck with me, in hopes that it will help you too!

I would say the number one things I learned is PATIENCE. Patience will help you in so many areas of your life and in all of your relationships. It is also something much needed for being a parent. Having patience during dark times, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Having patience will get you through anything.

I love this quote, “A moment of patience, will save you from a lifetime of regret.”

A major things I struggle with is being patient with myself and those closest to me. I sometimes always want things to happen right away, or on my time. But taking a deep breath and taking a step back to be patient is so important. Being a mom, there are days I look at the clock and can’t believe how fast the day went by because we were having so much fun!.Then there are always those days in the week where I lost my patience that day. I then regret it when I am laying down for bed on my pillow reflecting on the day. I have learned to step back and realize these years go by so fast, and these frustrating and difficult baby/ toddler phase won’t last forever.

Another thing I learned is how much we are in charge and responsible for shaping these sweet, innocent humans into the people they will be. It hit me when Zuriel turned one year old, just how much this little girl will look up to me and watch everything I do. From how I treat strangers, to how I react to situations, to how I am as a person in general. Knowing this has made me want to be BETTER. I fall short every single day, but I try everyday. I wake up thinking that every time before I get Zuriel out of her crib in the morning. I want to help shape her by showing positive things to her: by showing her daddy love and respect, by being kind to strangers, by not making fun of people or talking behind their back, by being kind and respectful to the elderly and those who are disabled, by treating animals gently, by saying please and thank you, and the list goes on. It is a big responsibility and something I don’t take lightly. It may seem like little things, but they are huge things to me.

One thing Tunde and I try to do all the time is make her laugh! We both can’t get enough of her laugh!! You know, that baby laugh that is so genuine and loud, and makes your heart burst!! We always try to fill our home and lives with laughter and love and affections! It is something we both knew we wanted to have in our home forever. Tunde and I try our hardest everyday to show LOVE. We have to consciously make the effort to show it as much as we can to each other and Zuriel!!. Having a home full of love, laughter, and parents who are madly in love is something we always want for our kids. I would say as a family unit that is our number one priority and goal in everything we do!

Being a parent is not easy but its the most rewarding and the best job ever!